{"product_id":"you-are-the-one-youve-been-waiting-for-applying-internal-family-systems-to-intimate-relationships","title":"You Are the One You've Been Waiting for: Applying Internal Family Systems to Intimate Relationships (Spiral Bound)","description":"\u003ctable align=\"center\" border=\"0\" cellpadding=\"2\" cellspacing=\"0\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd class=\"productDetailSmallElements\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBrief Description\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"A guide on how to apply the Internal Family Systems therapy model to intimate relationships\"--\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"This profound and readable book provides clear guidelines for therapists and clients alike. In ways that complement my own work, clients learn how to unload the cultural and family burdens that block intimacy by keeping them locked in rigid gender roles. Therapists learn an empowering and practical process for treating couples. I enthusiastically recommend this book to anyone serious about improving relationships in the world today!\" --\u003cb\u003eTerrence Real\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \u003ci\u003eI Don't Want to Talk about It\u003c\/i\u003e, \u003ci\u003eHow Can I Get Through to You?\u003c\/i\u003e, and \u003ci\u003eThe New Rules of Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"This highly original book offers critical new insights into obstacles to the dance of intimacy. Most of us have inner exiled parts that carry burdens of shame and abandonment from our past. These interfere with our capacity for intimacy. Dick Schwartz shows us how to use the exiles our partners trigger in us to find and heal the source--our original attachment injuries. This releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eBessel A. van der Kolk, \u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e MD\u003c\/b\u003e, medical director, the Trauma Center, and professor of psychiatry, Boston University School of Medicine \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\" \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e is my relationship bible! The IFS principles and methods shared in this book have offered me direct access to 'courageous love' and a greater connection to my husband than I ever thought possible. The book is on my bedside table, and I turn to it as a nightly ritual.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eGabby Bernstein\u003c\/b\u003e, #1 \n\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of \n\u003ci\u003eThe Universe Has Your Back\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Dr. Richard Schwartz's work on Internal Family Systems, along with his latest book, \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e, has profoundly changed my life. One of life's most important endeavors is to learn how to have compassion for oneself, and his work has been instrumental in my own journey to do so. His unique approach has allowed me to grow with love and gentleness in all aspects of my being--cognitively, physically, and emotionally. I deeply believe his work will change the world. Dr. Schwartz's book is the number one tool I recommend for people who are seeking to find greater compassion and love for themselves and others, especially with regard to better understanding their role within the greater whole and world.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eKrista Williams\u003c\/b\u003e, cohost and founder of the top-rated \n\u003ci\u003eAlmost 30\u003c\/i\u003e and \n\u003ci\u003eMorning Microdose\u003c\/i\u003e podcasts and founder of Making Tarot Modern \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\" \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e convincingly reveals a profound truth: if we want to have deeply loving, authentic, meaningful intimate relationships we must begin with the one person we know we can influence--ourselves. Thoroughly researched yet totally accessible, Dr. Richard Schwartz's book is written in a compelling manner that had me hooked and gave me hope and tools for how I can enjoy more peaceful, courageously loving relationships.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eTara Schuster\u003c\/b\u003e, author of \n\u003ci\u003eBuy Yourself the F*cking Lilies\u003c\/i\u003e and the forthcoming \n\u003ci\u003e Glow in the F*cking Dark\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"In his new book, Richard Schwartz shares key insights for people who struggle to hold on to their sense of self in the context of relationships. \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e is a must-read for anyone seeking a companion on the path toward self-compassion and love.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eEsther Perel\u003c\/b\u003e, psychotherapist, author, and host of the \n\u003ci\u003eWhere Should We Begin?\u003c\/i\u003e podcast \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Emerging research suggests that the Internal Family Systems model, developed by Dick Schwartz and outlined in this book, cultivates self-acceptance, enhances inner compassion, and improves emotion regulation skills. This book applies the IFS model to one of the most complex human challenges and opportunities for healing, which is navigating intimate relationships. Our modern culture leaves us adrift in a sea of misunderstandings about how to achieve and sustain intimacy, and this book guides the reader to realize that the healing journey must first start with oneself.\" -- \n\u003cb\u003eZev Schuman-Olivier\u003c\/b\u003e\n\u003cb\u003e, MD\u003c\/b\u003e, assistant professor, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School, and director, Center for Mindfulness and Compassion, Cambridge Health Alliance \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBrief Description\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\"Previously published as You are the one you've been waiting for: bringing courageous love to intimate relationships, 2008\" --title page verso.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBiographical Note\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eRichard C. Schwartz, PhD, \u003c\/b\u003e is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multipart personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. Formerly an associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago and later at Northwestern University, he is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He has published five books and is a sought-after presenter. For more, visit ifs-institute.com.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublisher Marketing\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA groundbreaking approach for practicing courageous love and resilient intimacy--from the creator of Internal Family Systems therapy\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eDo loving relationships end because couples lack communication skills, struggle to empathize, and fail to accommodate each other's needs? That's a common belief within and outside of the therapeutic world... but what if it's all wrong? In \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e, Dr. Richard Schwartz, the celebrated founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, offers a new way--a path toward \n\u003ci\u003ecourageous love\u003c\/i\u003e that replaces the striving, dependent, and disconnected approach to solving relationship challenges. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eThe breakthrough realization of IFS is that our psyche contains multiple parts, each with a life of its own. Most problems in relationships arise because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for our disowned and unloved parts. In this book, you'll discover essential insights and tools to foster healthy dialogue with your parts \n\u003ci\u003eand\u003c\/i\u003e your partner, including: \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e- How to recognize and disarm the cultural assumptions that create shame, guilt, and isolation in relationships \n\u003cbr\u003e- The Three Projects--why we fool ourselves into thinking we must change our partner, change ourselves, or give up on true intimacy \n\u003cbr\u003e- Finding and Healing Exiles--transforming the way our most vulnerable parts influence the way we treat each other \n\u003cbr\u003e- How to reorient relationship conflicts to help each of us grow toward the Self--the center of our clarity and wisdom \n\u003cbr\u003e- Courageous Love--building resilient intimacy with each other and our parts to create healthy, lasting partnerships \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"No one can do the work of healing our orphaned parts for us,\" says Dr. Schwartz. \"Yet when we begin with Self-leadership, a relationship can become a safe place in which we help each other heal and grow.\" Here is an invaluable guide for therapists and laypersons alike to promote connection, trust, and understanding--within yourself and with the one you love. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eContributor Bio:\u003c\/strong\u003eSchwartz, Richard\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eRichard C. Schwartz, PhD, \u003c\/b\u003e is the creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that de-pathologizes the multipart personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. Formerly an associate professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Illinois at Chicago and later at Northwestern University, he is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School. He is the author of several books, including \n\u003ci\u003eNo Bad Parts\u003c\/i\u003e, \n\u003ci\u003eIntroduction to Internal Family Systems\u003c\/i\u003e, and \n\u003ci\u003eYou Are the One You've Been Waiting For\u003c\/i\u003e, and is a sought-after presenter. 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