The Grief Recovery Handbook, 20th Anniversary Expanded Edition: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses (Anniversary, Expand

Table of Contents:
Introduction -- Part 1. Seeing the Problem -- How to Use The Grief Recovery Handbook -- 1. Grief: A Neglected and Misunderstood Process -- Grief and Recovery -- Staying Open to Grief -- Grief Recovery: How Does It Work? -- An Incomplete Past May Doom the Future -- 2. Compounding the Problem -- Confusion About Stages -- What About Anger? -- Common Responses -- Getting Over or Getting Complete -- When Is It Time to Begin to Recover? -- Suicide, Murder, AIDS, and Other Tragic Circumstances -- The G Word -- Survivor: Another Inaccurate Word -- There Is Nothing Wrong with You -- 3. We Are Ill Prepared to Deal with Loss -- We're Taught How to Acquire Things, Not What to Do When We Lose Them -- We're Taught Myths About Dealing with Grief -- Participating in Your Own Recovery -- Loss of Trust -- Practice Makes Habits -- 4. Others Are Ill Prepared to Help Us Deal with Loss -- They Don't Know What to Say -- They're Afraid of Our Feelings -- They Try to Change the Subject -- They Intellectualize -- They Don't Hear Us -- They Don't Want to Talk About Death -- Professional Distortions -- They Want Us to Keep Our Faith -- 5. Academy Award Recovery -- Enshrine or Bedevil? -- We Want the Approval of Others -- I'm Fine Is Often a Lie -- We Begin to Experience a Massive Loss of Energy -- We Experience a Loss of Aliveness -- Part 2. Preparing for Change: Starting to Recover -- 6. Your First Choice: Choosing to Recover -- Who Is Responsible? -- Your Second Choice: Partnership or Working Alone -- Finding a Partner -- 7. Setting the Guidelines -- Initial Partners Meeting -- Making Commitments -- First Homework Assignment -- Review Thoughts and Reminders -- Second Partners Meeting -- 8. Identifying Short-Term Energy Relievers -- Short-Term Relief Doesn't Work -- Identifying Your Short-Term Energy-Relieving Behaviors -- Second Homework Assignment -- Third Partners Meeting -- 9. The Loss History Graph -- Compare and Minimize -- Loss History Graph Examples -- What Goes on the Loss History Graph -- Third Homework Assignment: Preparing Your Loss History Graph -- Time and Intensity -- Learning from Your Loss History Graph -- Fourth Partners Meeting -- Part 3. Finding the Solution -- 10. What Is Incompleteness? -- How to Identify What Is Incomplete -- Choosing a Loss to Complete -- More Help Choosing the First Loss to Work On and Questions about Other Losses -- 11. Introducing the Relationship Graph -- The Relationship Graph Is Different from the Loss History Graph -- Completing Is Not Forgetting -- Accurate Memory Pictures: Your Part -- Truth Is the Key to Recovery -- Even Long Illnesses End in Unfinished Business -- Hopes, Dreams, and Expectations -- The Relationship Graph -- Fourth Homework Assignment: Making Your Relationship Graph -- Dawn of Memory-the Death of an Infant -- Fifth Partners Meeting -- 12. Almost Home: Converting the Relationship Graph into Recovery Components -- Apologies -- Victims Have Difficulty with Apologies -- Forgiveness -- Significant Emotional Statements -- Fifth Homework Assignment: Putting It All Together -- Sixth Partners Meeting -- Moving from Discovery to Completion -- Final Homework Assignment: The Grief Recovery Completion Letter -- Important Note -- Final Partners Meeting: Reading Your Letter -- What Does Completion Mean? -- Stuck on a Painful Image -- What About New Discoveries? Cole's Window Story -- More Help with Relationship Graphs and Completion Letters -- 13. What Now? -- Cleanup Work -- Part 4. More on Choices and Other Losses -- 14. More on Choices-Which Loss to Work on First -- Start with Relationships You Remember -- Other First Choice Concerns: Hidden or Disguised Choices -- 15. Guidelines for Working on Specific Losses -- Death or Absence of Parent from an Early Age -- Infant Loss and Infertility -- Alzheimer's-Dementia -- Growing Up in an Alcoholic or Otherwise Dysfunctional Home -- Unique Loss Graphing Situations: Faith, Career, Health, Moving -- Moving -- Miscellaneous Tips -- The Final Word -- The Grief Recovery Institute: Services and Programs -- Acknowledgments.

Jacket Description/Back:

Newly updated and expanded to commemorate its twentieth anniversary this classic resource helps people complete the grieving process and move toward recovery and happiness.

Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others', the authors illustrate how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to move beyond loss. New material in this edition includes guidance for dealing with:

"This book is required for all my classes. The more I use this book, the more I believe that unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people's lives. It is the only work of its kind that I know of that outlines the problem and provides the solution." -- Bernard McGrane, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, Chapman University

Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, this classic resource further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.

Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others', the authors illustrate how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity.

Based on a proven program, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to move beyond loss. New material in this edition includes guidance for dealing with:

- Loss of faith

- Loss of career and financial issues

- Loss of health

- Growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home

The Grief Recovery Handbook is a groundbreaking, classic handbook that everyone should have in their library.

"This book is required for all my classes. The more I use this book, the more I believe that unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people's lives. It is the only work of its kind that I know of that outlines the problem and provides the solution."--Bernard McGrane, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, Chapman University

Review Citations:

• Library Journal Annex 03/02/2009 (EAN 9780061686078, Paperback)
• Wilson Nonfiction Catalog 04/11/2019 (EAN 9780061686078, Paperback)

Contributor Bio:James, John W

John W. James and Russell Friedman have been working with grievers for more than thirty years. They have served as consultants to thousands of bereavement professionals and provide Grief Recovery^(R) Seminars and Certification Programs throughout the United States and Canada. They are the founders of the Grief Recovery Institute^(R).

John W. James and Russell Friedman have been working with grievers for more than thirty years. They have served as consultants to thousands of bereavement professionals and provide Grief Recovery^(R) Seminars and Certification Programs throughout the United States and Canada. They are the founders of the Grief Recovery Institute^(R).