The Art of Being a Stranger: A Family Memoir

"Karen Bermann grew up in the mad orbit of her father, Fritz, the rebellious child of a Viennese Orthodox Jewish family who fled Europe alone as an adolescent in the late 1930s. An irreverent, comic, rageful man with three names, who spoke three languages, lived on three continents, and always kept his papers in order, Fritz lived a life shaped by survival. In this memoir, told in alternating voices in brief, lyrical episodes, Bermann explores not only the mystery of her father but also the inheritance he passed on: intergenerational trauma, fragile familial bonds, and a fraught sense of belonging. The Art of Being a Stranger is a darkly funny narrative told in poetry, prose, and mixed-media drawings. While her father taught her how to save herself, Bermann realized early on that what she truly needed was to be saved from him. Set against the backdrop of 1960s and 1970s New York City, The Art of Being a Stranger is a poignant comic-drama that offers an intimate, layered exploration of parents and children in the shadow of history."--

Publisher Marketing: 1. Vienna 1922-1938 What a Magnificent Panorama 1 Already I Knew That God Did Not Exist 2. Palestine 1938-1948 Black Leather Coat A Dog-or-Eat-the-Dog World 3. New York 1948-2013 Remember Me, Charlie? Building Maintenance 1 The Projects It's Not a Question of IF but of WHEN Secure in the Knowledge That I Am a Stranger Made for the Ear of God Bone by Jewelled Bone A Wall of Forgetting Building Maintenance 2 The Hemlock Society Charter Vacation Then All of a Sudden It Began I Have Been Where You Have Not Been The Drop How We Got Through What a Magnificent Panorama 2 The Cookies Biographical Note : Karen Bermann is professor emerita of architecture at Iowa State University, where she specialized in beginning design, drawing, and teaching in the Rome study abroad program. Prior to earning a bachelor of architecture at The Cooper Union, she worked on sweat equity rehabilitation on the Lower East Side in the building that first brought solar and wind energy to New York City. She has published and presented widely in academic contexts on questions of identity, memory, and place. She lives in Rome. Review Quotes : " The Art of Being a Stranger is a book of such tenderness, love, beauty, and insight that I had to take a long walk before returning to its words and pictures. Once I finished and 'saw' I returned to it to 'see' again. Karen Berman is that kind of artist. I wanted to inhale this masterpiece, to carry it inside me, to stare at it as one does an amazing painting, seeing new details each time. If there is one book - not a historical treatise, but an elegy to a father and a lost world - that helps us to understand historical trauma, the frailty of religion, the horror of war, the durability of love, and yes, the meaning of living in the world today, it is this book. I am so grateful for it."--Caroline Heller, author of Reading Claudius: A Dual Memoir and professor emerita of education, Lesley University "There are eight million stories in the Naked City, and Karen Bermann's Vienna to Palestine to Queens tale is a great one - full of vivid details about New York City infrastructure and the pathos of refugee life."--J. Hoberman, author of Bridge of Light: Yiddish Film Between Two Worlds " The Art of Being a Stranger is a meditation in ink and silence. Karen Bermann traces the fragile lines of memory, exile, and belonging with aching beauty. Through luminous panels and quiet revelation, she tells a story of a family lost and found, and of identities blurred and reborn. This is not just a graphic novel - it is a lyrical elegy, drawn from the heart's deepest archive."--Miles Hyman, painter, author, and illustrator of graphic adaptations for James Ellroy's The Black Dahlia and Shirley Jackson's The Lottery "Beautiful and unsentimental, Karen Bermann's The Art of Being a Stranger reminds me of the timeless truth articulated by Franz Kafka: 'If the book we're reading doesn't wake us up with a blow to the head, what are we reading for? A book must be the axe for the frozen sea within us.'"--Robert Jan Van Pelt, Professor of Architecture, University of Waterloo "Karen Bermann's gorgeously crafted graphic novel, like Käthe Kollwitz's drawings, is hauntingly evocative. It brings the sadness and glory of a twentieth century refugee family to life in its richly textured, often wildly comic mix of poetry and prose."--Jay Neugeboren and Eli Neugeboren, author and artist of Whatever Happened to Frankie King "In The Art of Being a Stranger , author Karen Bermann tackles the complexities of her father, who was sent to Palestine following the Nazi occupation of Austria. The story of the family - poor East European Jewish immigrants to Vienna - itself challenges the tropes we commonly think of when thinking of Jewish Vienna. This family is far from the world of trips to the opera and Sachertorte. Bermann explores the difficult legacy of her father's history and parenting as she grows up in New York City with a parent who wrestles constantly with his dark past. This heavily illustrated novel delves with honesty into the nuances and pain the past has laid, through her father, on all of them."--Michael Simonson, Head of Public Outreach and Archivist, Leo Baeck Institute "The warp of Nazi hatred and the weft of Jewish fury have seldom been woven into such a singular fabric. The author evokes her father with constant exasperation and profound underlying affection; the juxtaposition between his rage and her forgiving sadness manifest in both word and image, makes a strange Haggadah. The Art of Being a Stranger is different from all other books in its combination of apparent simplicity and deep insight into a tragedy that will forever be unfolding."--Andrew Solomon, New York Times bestselling author and winner of the National Book Award, author of Far from the Tree and The Noonday Demon , and professor of psychology at Yale University, University of Cambridge, and Columbia University " The Art of Being a Stranger happily inhabits the "uncomfortable" liminal space between the genres of graphic memoir, survivor testimony, family biography, and poetry; as well as the space between belongings."--Dan Friedman, Forward Publisher Marketing : Karen Bermann grew up in the mad orbit of her father, Fritz, the rebellious child of a Viennese Orthodox Jewish family who fled Europe alone as an adolescent in the late 1930s. An irreverent, comic, rageful man with three names, who spoke three languages, lived on three continents, and always kept his papers in order, Fritz lived a life shaped by survival. In this memoir, told in alternating voices in brief, lyrical episodes, Bermann explores not only the mystery of her father but also the inheritance he passed on: intergenerational trauma, fragile familial bonds, and a fraught sense of belonging. The Art of Being a Stranger is a darkly funny narrative told in poetry, prose, and mixed-media drawings. While her father taught her how to save herself, Bermann realized early on that what she truly needed was to be saved from him. Set against the backdrop of 1960s and 1970s New York City, The Art of Being a Stranger is a poignant comic-drama that offers an intimate, layered exploration of parents and children in the shadow of history.

Format: Paperback | Pages: 248 | Publication Date: 2025-09-23